The general view of Western men: Russian girls are kinder, more caring and thrifty. They are good wives. Women in the West, according to men's view, are materialist too much, demanding and spoiled. To some extent this is true. Russian women look better, dress elegance and neat (we have never suspected!) seem more kind and homy. Men in the West do not look to the welfare of the bride, the most important thing for them - external attractiveness and sexuality.
We can not say that there are not beautiful women in the West. There are, and quite a lot. But what distinguishes Russian women is a desire to be loved. Our Russian women are femininity. The sea of warmth and charm is in them. Western women are pretty and smiling, quite friendly, but they are cold. Growing up in prosperous society, they are too independent and self-sufficiency. They strongly aware of their rights and, above all, they are not obliged to tolerate the inconvenience.
Western woman knows the price of them and their attractiveness. In the West, men still care for women, not vice versa! The men (many of them were previously married), said with one accord: Russian girls are good wives. They were hampered to explain what was the difference between a Russian wife and the wife from the West - both are cooking for the family, maintain the order in the house, raise children, care of the husband - but agreed in one: Russian wife - is another life, more happy and calm. According to them, with Russian wife, the marriage "works out".
We grow up in a situation where everything depends on everyone. Russian people, and especially a woman, has a surprising ability to adapt. Our people feel like a fish in water, in an environment that is absolutely unbearable for any normal Westerners. In family life, this ability is resulted as a limitless tolerance. Russian woman did not even notice any infringement of her interests, where a normal woman from the West already shut the door with a bang after a hot quarrel. The point is not that women are spoiled or ill-humored - Western woman does not have a mental mobility, which allows you to survive in this situation without losing the integrity of your ego.
This is a key point, where the differences in approach to family life are from. If there is a disagreement on any matter, the Western woman will always act according to her own understanding of the proper way out of this situation. When she is confident in her rightness, she has not thought not to take action against the husband. Even if she goes to a compromise, she would feel deeply unhappy and will not let her husband forget for a moment, what she has sacrificed. For Russian woman a compromise is a way of life. If a violence is inevitable then to relax and enjoy. Russian woman is natural in her adoption of behavior and actions of her husband. That does not mean that she does not try to influence on them. She just does not try them reject. She is always with her husband.
That's all the secret. We are not better. We are not kinder. We just are more tolerant. Our personal scale of assessment of the values has more points, and where the western thermometer maxed out there the ours continues to work successfully. Actually this is a great thing - the ability to accept the reality and people as they are. Another objectively existing option, which is crucial for foreigners is the place of the family in a womans life. Our Russian woman naturally puts the family above career. Dating and Matchmaking agencies receive many letters from women whose career is quite successful, even on Western standards. These successful and professional women consider themselves deprived with family and children. They are happy to exchange the high professional status for the position of Western housewife.
For Western women the housewives rank is somewhere on the level of our Janitor. She can feel happy, only reaching the certain professional peaks. In principle, there is the aim to fight for - high professional status ensures a high life level. In Russia, even having a relatively high post, a woman does not receive good money, which provides the freedom and independence. With our Russian salaries - you doing any career, still will not earn money to have a decent standard of living - own country house, car and a good ability to manage them, the opportunity to travel in first class and the most important thing that money brings- the possibility not to worry anymore.
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